Talk to anyone with confidence (Even If You are Nervous)
Most people are terrible at starting conversations—and yeah, you might be one of them. I’m going to show you how to actually approach people, start conversations, and not make things awkward. We’ll look at what to say (the verbal part) and what your body is doing (the non-verbal part). I’ll teach you simple ways to start a conversation like introducing yourself, asking better questions, and actually listening—yes, listening! If you feel nervous in social situations, meetings, or parties, this lesson will help you start connecting with people. Now go talk to a smelly human. 😄 https://www.engvid.com... In this lesson: 0:00 How to talk to other people 1:00 What do I say??? 6:54 How to project confidence 8:07 Pay attention to SPACE Transcript: Hey there. I'm going to teach you today how to attract, avoid... No. How to approach humans. You know those other people that are around you? It can be difficult. It can be daunting. "Daunting" is a word that means, like, scary, a little bit uncomfortable. But there are a couple things that I want you to think about when you're doing this. If it's a group situation, or a party, or just on the street meeting people, there's two major categories we have to think about. First of all is the verbal, means what you're going to talk about or say, and then the kind of non-verbal side of things. And of course the verbal side is important because you go... "Well, I mean, what do you say to people?" Let me help you out with this one. But the non-verbal might be where you're making mistakes. Let's go into the verbal first. So, what do you say? What do you say to people when you first meet them? "Hey, you know what I do? I introduce myself." It doesn't matter who they are, anything, how old they are, where they're from. All you have to do to start a conversation with someone is say, "Hi. My name's Ronnie. What's your name?" You don't even have to ask them their name, just say, "Hi, my name's Ronnie." You don't have to say, "It's nice to meet you. How are you?" "How are you?" "Fine." How are you?" "Good." What happens to your conversation?" "Dead." So, you introduce yourself, and it gives the other person the opportunity to say their name, hopefully introduce themselves, and it's their job to continue the conversation. So guess what? If they don't want to talk to you, you will know because, "Hey, hi, I'm Ronnie." Okay. If they walk away or they don't smile, you know it's your chance to leave them. On to the next. There's an expression here called "read the room". I love this. It's a very common expression now. You're like, "Why is there a book in the room?" But reading the room means when you go someplace and you talk to people, you figure out what they're thinking. So, if I go in and say, "Hi, I'm Ronnie", and the person that I've greeted, their smile drops and they just kind of turn away, guess what? I know that they don't want to talk to me. Or if I'm really hyper and I go into a party or I go someplace and, you know, "Hey, everybody, I'm Ronnie", and they're like... Oh. You'll see it in their body movement, you'll see it in their facial expressions. Read the room basically means, like, understand your position in the group and kind of blend in. Or if you don't want to, then blend out. But read the room is understanding what the other people are doing, what's happening in the situation. Super important at work. A lot of people fall into this conversation pitfall. So, instead of asking the people a "yes/no" question... So, do you like it here? Yeah. People are going to say yes or no. So instead of asking someone a "do you", "are you" question, ask them a "what do you think about the subject?" So, ask people for their thoughts and ideas. So, let's say that I've met you for the first time. "Hi, I'm Ronnie." nd you're like, "Oh, hi. I'm Glenda. Nice to meet you." I would say, "Hey. Do you like Canada?" "Glenda, yes." Oh. What am I going to say next? So instead of asking "yes/no", say, "Hi, what do you think about Canada?" People go, "Oh, pfft, here's my list." Talk, talk, talk, talk, talk, talk, talk, talk, talk, conversation. And then you pull pieces from that. It's great. Another really hard thing for me to do sometimes is to listen to people. This might be your biggest mistake, especially in a work environment when you have to get to know people, is maybe you're really nervous about talking to the people and asking them questions that you forget to take a pause and listen to what the person's saying.
Most people are terrible at starting conversations—and yeah, you might be one of them. I’m going to show you how to actually approach people, start conversations, and not make things awkward. We’ll look at what to say (the verbal part) and what your body is doing (the non-verbal part). I’ll teach you simple ways to start a conversation like introducing yourself, asking better questions, and actually listening—yes, listening! If you feel nervous in social situations, meetings, or parties, this lesson will help you start connecting with people. Now go talk to a smelly human. 😄 https://www.engvid.com... In this lesson: 0:00 How to talk to other people 1:00 What do I say??? 6:54 How to project confidence 8:07 Pay attention to SPACE Transcript: Hey there. I'm going to teach you today how to attract, avoid... No. How to approach humans. You know those other people that are around you? It can be difficult. It can be daunting. "Daunting" is a word that means, like, scary, a little bit uncomfortable. But there are a couple things that I want you to think about when you're doing this. If it's a group situation, or a party, or just on the street meeting people, there's two major categories we have to think about. First of all is the verbal, means what you're going to talk about or say, and then the kind of non-verbal side of things. And of course the verbal side is important because you go... "Well, I mean, what do you say to people?" Let me help you out with this one. But the non-verbal might be where you're making mistakes. Let's go into the verbal first. So, what do you say? What do you say to people when you first meet them? "Hey, you know what I do? I introduce myself." It doesn't matter who they are, anything, how old they are, where they're from. All you have to do to start a conversation with someone is say, "Hi. My name's Ronnie. What's your name?" You don't even have to ask them their name, just say, "Hi, my name's Ronnie." You don't have to say, "It's nice to meet you. How are you?" "How are you?" "Fine." How are you?" "Good." What happens to your conversation?" "Dead." So, you introduce yourself, and it gives the other person the opportunity to say their name, hopefully introduce themselves, and it's their job to continue the conversation. So guess what? If they don't want to talk to you, you will know because, "Hey, hi, I'm Ronnie." Okay. If they walk away or they don't smile, you know it's your chance to leave them. On to the next. There's an expression here called "read the room". I love this. It's a very common expression now. You're like, "Why is there a book in the room?" But reading the room means when you go someplace and you talk to people, you figure out what they're thinking. So, if I go in and say, "Hi, I'm Ronnie", and the person that I've greeted, their smile drops and they just kind of turn away, guess what? I know that they don't want to talk to me. Or if I'm really hyper and I go into a party or I go someplace and, you know, "Hey, everybody, I'm Ronnie", and they're like... Oh. You'll see it in their body movement, you'll see it in their facial expressions. Read the room basically means, like, understand your position in the group and kind of blend in. Or if you don't want to, then blend out. But read the room is understanding what the other people are doing, what's happening in the situation. Super important at work. A lot of people fall into this conversation pitfall. So, instead of asking the people a "yes/no" question... So, do you like it here? Yeah. People are going to say yes or no. So instead of asking someone a "do you", "are you" question, ask them a "what do you think about the subject?" So, ask people for their thoughts and ideas. So, let's say that I've met you for the first time. "Hi, I'm Ronnie." nd you're like, "Oh, hi. I'm Glenda. Nice to meet you." I would say, "Hey. Do you like Canada?" "Glenda, yes." Oh. What am I going to say next? So instead of asking "yes/no", say, "Hi, what do you think about Canada?" People go, "Oh, pfft, here's my list." Talk, talk, talk, talk, talk, talk, talk, talk, talk, conversation. And then you pull pieces from that. It's great. Another really hard thing for me to do sometimes is to listen to people. This might be your biggest mistake, especially in a work environment when you have to get to know people, is maybe you're really nervous about talking to the people and asking them questions that you forget to take a pause and listen to what the person's saying.